By Erica Trinidad on February 2, 2018
With Valentine's just around the corner, we made sure to put this survival kit together for when your love life just doesn't seem to be turning out the way you want. Here's how to leverage your skills at work to achieve peace of mind (and heart!) in your personal life during this romantic time.
Struggle 1: When you're staying late at work because you have no date
How to Manage It: No date? No problem! Instead of feeling sad from your FOMO, use those extra hours at work instead to get paid overtime! Plus make sure your boss sees how hard you're working—public celebration or otherwise. Score those brownie points while nobody's looking!
Struggle 2: When your client calls but your crush doesn't
How to Manage It: Another call, another client. We get that it's not exactly dream material to talk about deadlines, targets and budgets when you could be whispering sweet nothings to someone instead, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the conversation! Instead of wasting time thinking why they're not calling you, keep yourself busy and productive at work instead. Future self will thank you for it!
Struggle 3: When your computer can relate more to "I need space" than you do
How to Manage It: As they say, happiness is the best revenge! If your current flame wants some space even during this special time, then let them be! It's better to spend time with someone who wants to be with you 100% during Valentine's. Whether it's your cool office bestie, or your amazing mentor of a boss, remember that Valentine's is about spending it with people you care about, romantic or otherwise.
Struggle 4: When your boss is more open when you "need to talk", but your S.O. isn't
How to Manage It: The great thing about working in a professional setting is that it forces you to be more assertive and adopt a more proactive communication style than you'd usually be comfortable with in your personal relationships. Since your job is on the line, you have to speak up or your performance might suffer.
Instead of stressing about how your S.O doesn't seem so comfortable with serious conversations, make sure you use your time at work to practice your communication skills instead. Who knows? Maybe by the time your S.O. is ready, you could be better at approaching the subject in a way that's more open and relaxed for both of you instead.
Struggle 5: When you can't seem to enjoy time with your S.O. as much as you do at work
How to Manage It: First things first: though it's highly dependent on your work culture, more often than not, most employers prefer that you leave your personal problems at the door when you come in. That being said, perhaps it's time to realize that not all is lost! What you enjoy about work (personal fulfillment, socializing, and growth) can also be found in your romantic relationships.
Just like with your job, realize that with any great relationship, there will be downs with the ups. Remind yourself your reasons for pursuing these commitments, think about why you're grateful for their presence in your life, and before you know it, you'll be inspired to reinvigorate them—personal, professional, or otherwise.