Experiencing the ups and downs of your career, or just life in general, is normal. If your career is going absolutely great right now, there will be days when you find your thoughts constantly wandering off to some ideal job or life that you don’t crave yet. Somewhere or something that won’t make you feel stuck, trapped, or worse, lost. I get it, you’re afraid that this is all there is to it.
But let me tell you something—and you might want to pass this on to your younger and present self—it will get better.
How? Here’s some hard earned wisdom from professional career coach Christie Mims.
1. Wanting a different career is totally OK
This doesn’t mean you’re not grateful, that you are immature or foolish to want something else. No, it means you’re being honest to everyone, and to yourself.
We’ve had those days when we feel uninspired and unfulfilled with our jobs. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you feel miserable working there—even if a lot of people would kill to be in your position. The worst thing for a person in this position is to feel guilty for wanting to be happy somewhere else.
True career happiness comes from really enjoying and loving the job you have now. This kind of bliss doesn’t come from money, or the title they give you, it comes from feeling fulfilled and being valued, and just being content with what you have.
Therefore, if you don’t feel this way anymore towards your current employer, then go out there and find the job that will make Monday mornings something to look forward to. Somewhere where you can create impact and not just be another suit. The world needs more of what you have to offer, no matter the size. And isn’t that better than showing up uninspired at work everyday?
2. Loving your job makes other stuff matter less
Have you ever thought about not being able to live without the stuff you “need”? By that I mean, not being able to buy that new bag, or those white sneakers, or perhaps that plane ticket to paradise. When you have a job, you have the option to buy those things and more whenever you want. You’re in your comfort zone, and ignoring the great opportunities coming along your way because, hey, you can’t even contemplate on doing something else.
Let me tell you something, true happiness is not based on materialistic things, rather, they are based on non-materialistic gratification.
You may not realize that all the things that you need are just distractions from a job that you dont want to do anymore. When you focus on moving towards something else, something with more substance like starting a small business or passion job, you’ll soon notice that you won’t be as interested in having fancy vacations anymore because the drive to succeed overpowers the will to buy materialistic things.
Pro tip: Don’t let materialistic things keep you stuck. You won’t be happy.
3. Fear means you’re onto something great
Fear immobilizes you from everything you ever hope to achieve, and everything you want in life is on the other side. If you’re hesitant, you may risk the opportunity of getting what you want. It can feel overwhelming, and defeats more people than any other force in the world. But the good news is, it’s not as powerful as it seems.
Try looking at fear from a different perspective. Think that if you are afraid of doing something, then it might mean that it is actually worth it, and that’s why you are scared.
What’s great about being scared is that it actually makes you feel alive. There are only two ways you’ll probably go from here: either let it eat you up, or you do something to fight it. You are in control. Planning to change career but afraid how it’s going to turn out? Well, honestly, you’ll never know the outcome unless you try it.
Fear of failure can make you work harder to eventually achieve your goals. And at the end of the day, you’ll realize that fear was there to push you to your limits, to help you become better individuals, as well as keeping you grounded and motivated. Don’t be afraid of being afraid, it is often where career changes happen. So instead of saying “What if,” train your mind to saying “Why not?”